When it comes to a disagreement, I could be easily upset, once upon a time. That was only a few moons ago, so not that long in my past. I would lose my cool at the drop of a hat.

Knowing this was true, I had to make sure to be on guard and look for the triggers that made it possible.

Insecurity causes most arguments in my life. My insecurities come from growing up in the hood (Newark, NJ) Honestly you have to address anything perceived as disrespectful asap. If not people will continue to pile on.

JAY-Z explained it best in the song ” Streets is Watching” (once you tagged lame, the game is follow the leader, everybody want a piece of your scrilla, so you gotta keep it realer)

After growing older you learn most arguments are really a waste of time. I noticed when having conversations with most men it turns into a competition in instead of a trading of ideas. 

Arguments with dudes mostly are over subjective things, like music, sports, girls, and cars. We all spend a tremendous amount of time trying to convince the other person your point of view is less than mine.

Which is a ridiculous waste of time. Most of us men aren’t taught the fundamentals of debate and that leads to arguments. Even after reading books on the subject, I let a person who doesn’t understand those fundamentals get me out of pocket.

Then I have to remind myself arguing with a person that hasn’t read a book since high school is ridiculous. Don’t get me wrong reading isn’t everything but it definitely helps our blind spots of intellect.

I feel like being street smart is important as being book smart. When a person doesn’t respect both you have to agree to disagree with this person often or expect headache conversations, due to their lack of comprehension skills, and being able to explain themselves.

I hope if you are like I was in my younger days, please use the agree to disagree move.

Don’t get me wrong, I also believe sometimes you just gotta punch a bitch in the face. This should only take place in self defense or if it’s the only language the person understands.

It can be a great form of communication, it is like you keep being disrespectful regardless of my politeness so here’s something you can understand. 👊🏾🖕🏾